Resources

Tools to Reconnect

Therapist-made workbooks you can start today.

The Reconnect Starter Kit
The Reconnect Starter Kit
$27.00

Feeling a little disconnected from your partner? Start here.

You still love each other. You're just a little far apart right now.

Maybe nothing big happened. Just a slow drift. You talk about the calendar, the kids, what's for dinner, and somewhere along the way you stopped really reaching for each other. Or maybe the same fight keeps coming back, and every round leaves you both a little more guarded.

Here's the truth: your relationship isn't the problem. The pattern is. And patterns can change.

I'm Emily, an EFT couples therapist, and I created this kit to help you start closing the distance in small, doable ways. No grand gestures. No awkward marathon talks. Just simple moments of turning toward each other.

Inside you'll get:

- A welcome video from me explaining the pattern that keeps so many couples stuck, and what's really happening underneath it

- 5 connection prompts that help you understand each other more deeply

- 3 simple things to try that take almost no time

- A "what to do when they don't respond how you hoped" guide, so one flat moment doesn't send you back into the old cycle

- A 7-day reconnect plan, just a few minutes a day

You can do this together or on your own. One person changing their steps can change the whole dance.

Instant download. Start reconnecting today.

Name Your Pattern: A Workbook for Your Side of the Relationship
Name Your Pattern: A Workbook for Your Side of the Relationship
$17.00

You love your partner, and you know they love you. But you keep having the same fight with different words, and you can predict how it will go before it even starts.

Here’s the truth: you’re not the problem, and neither is your partner. The pattern is.

Name Your Pattern is a guided workbook from Emily Germain, LICSW, an Emotionally Focused couples therapist. It’s built entirely around you, so you don’t need your partner to sit down and do it with you. Most change starts with one person understanding the pattern clearly enough to step out of it.

Inside, you’ll:

  • Find your role with a short quiz that shows whether you tend to move toward or away when connection feels shaky

  • Map your pattern from trigger to ending, and give your cycle a name so you can catch it next time

  • Find the soft underneath, the more vulnerable feeling beneath your go-to reaction, and practice putting it into words

  • Build your repair move, including the “pause with a promise,” so you have one small step ready for mid-fight

  • Keep going with a weekly check-in and low-pressure ways to bring your partner in, if and when you want to

This is for you if:

  • You feel stuck, even though the love is there

  • You’ve tried “communicating better” and it hasn’t lasted

  • You feel unseen or unheard by someone who cares about you deeply

  • On paper everything’s fine, but something feels off

Format: 16-page digital PDF with guided prompts and writing space. Print it or fill it in by hand.

This workbook is for education and self-reflection. It is not therapy and does not create a therapist–client relationship. It is not intended for relationships involving fear, control, threats, or violence.

Books for Couples

  • Open book next to a latte with heart-shaped foam, accompanied by eucalyptus branches on a white background.

    Secure Love: Creating a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno

    Secure Love: Creating a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime is the book I most often recommend, as it provides a strong foundation for the kinds of conversations we have in sessions. Written by Julie Mennano, an EFT-trained couples therapist, the book offers valuable insights that many of the couples I've worked with have found helpful in better understanding both themselves and their partners.

  • Open book on a white surface with eyeglasses and a cup of latte art coffee beside it.

    Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

    In the book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Dr. Sue Johnson teaches how to use EFT to reestablish a safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. It’s a great read for couples who are working with an EFT therapist.

  • An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us

    An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald has exercises to help couples enhance emotional connection and overcome distress.

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Below are two YouTube videos that give short explanations on EFT for couples.

New Client Information

Once we agree to meet together, I will email you paperwork to fill out electronically through my virtual client portal. You can also review my Practice Information and Policies here.